When we get rejected, we naturally feel very small. It’s as if the world has turned its back on you and decided to come after you. You begin to feel negative about everything that surrounds you. Nothing is able to pick up your mood on that day of rejection. At many times, the one day of negativity becomes several days. For some, the rejection is taken so hard that it becomes an all consuming thought that just take over their lives.
It’s easy to see how a rejection can easily snowball into a chain of negative events. That bad day can lead to a bad attitude and we all know that nothing good ever comes out of that. How then do we change a rejection, a negative event, into thoughts of positivity, motivation, and perseverance?
We would do so by controlling the way we think about rejection. Naturally, we see the event as one in which you would have liked to avoid. But think about the many moments in which rejection has worked well in your favor. Perhaps a pretty girl rejected you, but because of that, you ended up meeting the most magnificent woman that turned out to be your wife. Or perhaps you were rejected by a job, but because of that, a much greater one came your way. Essentially, what I’m trying to say is that life tends to unravel itself in the funniest way and that everything will always end up being better, if you’re able to think the right way.
Yes, the feeling of rejection will never feel good. But what if you were able to control your thoughts and emotions into knowing that only good things will come out of it? When one gets rejected, instead of sulking and feeling sorry for oneself, what if he/she decided to plan a new direction towards obtaining the same goal or plan an alternative course of action. In doing so, the rejection becomes a driving force towards the goals that one needs to achieve. By turning a rejection into a positive event, one learns from the experience, becomes wiser, and will slowly become an expert in understanding and applying perseverance.
As a side lesson, you will now also have the advantage of hindsight. Because it has now become a motivational rejection, you will be able to analyze the situation, learn from any mistakes, and know very well how to do it better next time. Or, at a very minimal, you’ll be able to help anybody who may go through the same rejection in the future!
Learn and teach. That is how you will truly grow from a rejection.
